Gay Marriage as Metaphor?

Last week, President Barack Obama affirmed his personal support for gay marriage, pushing the issue into the political spotlight once again. Of course, it’s much more than politics. It’s a spiritual issue, too.

When faced with the question of gay marriage, Christians will often rattle off buzz verses that explicitly condemn homosexual practice, such as Leviticus 18:22, Romans 1:26-27, or the story of Sodom and Gomorrah. Others take us to the garden, where God established marriage and set the marital standard for the human race. All legitimate texts, to be sure, although not without controversy regarding civil and ceremonial laws, cultural contexts, and so forth.

We’re certainly free to expound on these verses, but they may not be the best place to start when setting up a biblical theology of marriage. After all, these truths have deeper roots. Because every one of God’s laws reveals something about his nature and character, we must look beyond the standard proof texts to the bigger picture: what does marriage say about God?

Throughout the Old and New Testaments, marriage is a symbol for God and his people. God is always bridegroom; his people, the bride. Jeremiah compares Israel to a bride devoted to her husband, the Lord (Jeremiah 2:2). Ezekiel portrays Israel as an unfaithful wife, while God remains the faithful husband (Ezekiel 16). Hosea’s marriage to his adulterous wife parallels the relationship between God and Israel throughout the Book of Hosea. In the New Testament, John the Baptist calls Jesus the bridegroom, whose bride, his followers, delights to hear his voice (John 3:29). Jesus calls himself the bridegroom, while the disciples represent his bride (Matthew 9:15). Clearest of all is Paul, who says the act of man and woman becoming one flesh “refers to Christ and the church” (Ephesians 5:22-32). John the Revelator shows us what the shadow of marriage pointed to all along: the future union of Christ and his people at the marriage supper of the Lamb (Revelation 19:6-10). And we could go on.

For the biblical writers, marriage is a living picture of the gospel—a portrait of God’s faithfulness toward his covenant people.

So imagine what happens when we mess with the metaphor. Marriage between two men signifies two god-figures—a picture of polytheism, the absolute antithesis of the Christian faith (Deuteronomy 6:4; Isaiah 44:6-8). On the other hand, marriage between two women signifies two sets of people and leaves out the Savior entirely, making the metaphor nothing more than an emblem of atheism. There’s no gospel to be found in either metaphor. In both cases, an important and necessary part of the redemption story is missing: either God or his people. The metaphor only works with one man and one woman—and the metaphor matters. 

As the issue of gay marriage makes its way into our homes, our churches and our ballots, the culture will demand answers from Christians seeking to protect the institution of marriage as a covenant between one man and one woman. Even without quoting the quintessential texts that specifically mention homosexuality (and any other sexual or marital sin for that matter), the metaphor gives us biblical grounds to oppose anything that takes the Good News out of marriage. For the Christian, the issue of gay marriage is not merely a war to protect long-held Western values. When we stand for marriage as God defines it, we’re standing for the gospel.

Bryan can be reached at The Happy Alternative

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17 responses to “Gay Marriage as Metaphor?”

  1. Chris Kirkham

    Hm. Very interesting perspective! Never thought about the symbolism
    implied quite like that. Good article. From a Christian perspective that makes sense, but my worry is forcing that perspective onto those who don’t have the same beliefs. Even if I disagree with their actions, I don’t see how I can justify stopping them.

    1. Bryan Magana

      I appreciate your comment, Chris. I’ve spent a lot of time working through the spiritual aspects of homosexuality and gay marriage, but haven’t yet worked out the political aspects. It’s a tough one for the Christian, because we believe Christ rules and reigns over not only the Church, but also the world. His laws transcend time and culture, as does the meaning of marriage. You’re right, we can’t force our perspective on anyone. But we can certainly vote our convictions and our conscience, and lovingly share our views with others. And, of course, continue to preach the gospel, which also transcends time and culture. I’ve got lots more studying to do when it comes to gay marriage in American politics. As a Christian, I oppose it; as an American, what do I do now? Bottom line: I don’t think Christians need to throw in the towel just yet.

      1. Hey Bryan,

        I’ve been reading some of your posts. If you’d like to know what God believes is the right political perspective, I suggest reading Romans; particularly chapters 3 and 13.

        I just posted on your other article. On there I listed the main points if you want to check it out.

        God Bless. :}

  2. Nathan Bigsby

    Excellent! This is a perspective on this issue that needs to be taught more and more. Defending the definition of marriage is defending the Gospel. Thank You.

    I think the federal government should not be in the business of defining marriage. They should allow for “social contracts” or “civil unions” and leave the definition of marriage up to the religious institutions of the land. With “civil unions” they would receive all the rights that they are seeking and leave room for the religious institutions to define marriage for them. Thoughts?

    1. Bryan Magana

      Thanks for your comment, Nathan. Gay marriage has been framed as a civil rights issue, but I’m not convinced. All citizens have the right to marry, but whom? How many? At what age? The debate centers more on the definition of marriage—and everyone has one. As a Christian, I must ask how close or far is that definition from God’s metaphor, and why should it matter? When it comes to civil unions, I haven’t done enough research to come to a clear conclusion, although I’m sure some of our readers would love to chime in!

    2. Chris Kirkham

      I’ve thought the same thing, Nathan. I’m not fully educated on what civil unions truly entail enough to decide if that is truly an equal option with a different name or not. From what I understand it is. I do think the debate really has been tagged as a “civil rights” issue and a matter of principle rather than actual benefits etc., but (like Bryan mentioned as well), in the end it seems to boil down to semantics. I personally think marriage between a man and a woman is a sacred thing that is recognized by God as a means of progressing mankind spiritually and physically, and I also appreciate the symbolism Bryan has pointed out here. But while I don’t recognize gay marriage as a similarly sacred union, I have come to respect their right for it. I personally don’t care if they want to call it “marriage” as that is just a word to me (but I also don’t see why they insist on calling it marriage other than a matter of principle). I find myself wondering why a faithful gay couple that truly loves each other should be worse off in God’s eyes than a heterosexual couple that have an intoxicated shotgun wedding in Vegas only to commit adultery on each other several times through the course of their “legal marriage.” In my opinion, the latter is much more of a disgrace to that sanctity of marriage. I dunno. I know where I stand spiritually and I will defend my faith and conviction, but it is a uniquely difficult topic for me politically.

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  4. I think we have to be careful when we consider the practical applications of biblical metaphors. A metaphor is essentially an illustration pulled from the existing culture to explain a concept right? However, a metaphor is never meant to be taken to say more than it actually does. So the bible compares God to a husband and the church as his bride. It uses an example from life to explain a concept in a way that we can all understand. As you extend the marriage metaphor into other walks of life we see that it would fall flat on the single person who never gets married… is that then a God without a people or a people without a God? We could take this similar line of thinking and stand by practices like polygamy – after all, it would illustrate one god with multiple peoples. I guess all I’m saying is that I think you need to be so incredibly careful when you go beyond the scriptural analogy and then make moral statements from that place.

    1. Bryan Magana

      Thanks for the friendly reminder, David. I agree, we shouldn’t take metaphors too far. This was really a creative exercise: if we didn’t have any word from God regarding homosexuality, could we make a biblical case for so-called gay marriage? I’m still not convinced we can. Thankfully, we need not make any “moral statement” on gay marriage based on the metaphor alone. The biblical writers are clear that homosexual practice is a sin. (I glanced at your blog, so I know you’re already aware of this.) I hope you’ll read some of my other posts on homosexuality for a fuller picture of where I stand; it’s about more than a metaphor. Thanks for the comment. God bless!

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  7. jess

    The Bible says very clearly that divorce is also wrong but I don’t see Christians arguing we should make that illegal, or treat divorced people like second class citizen

  8. David

    You might like this article. Since you are thinking through these issues about homosexuality and “gay marriage”, etc. I simply cannot recommend it enough. I just came across it today.

    http://www.rcan.org/archbish/jjm_letters/wtbo.pdf

    God bless.

  9. H.H.

    I wonder if perhaps another issue that has been briefly mentioned, is the different expectations for believers and non-believers. Put differently should believers expect non-believers to live righteously? Scripturally the answer is clear (Romans 8:5-8).

    For believers I would understand a stand against homosexual marriage. But when God makes it clear that our best efforts for righteousness are ‘filth rags’ in his sight perhaps forcing the issue for non-believers does not promote righteousness through the forgiveness of sins from a by a loving of God but instead promotes the very religious spirit that many christians profess to be against! Do this because we say it’s right and we know best for everyone…is this loving?

    The flip side of forcing religious authorities to perform such ceremonies I can understand the resistance to. Who would want to do something which they felt scarred their conscience?

    I understand that the church are to raise righteous living as a banner but this comes from personal integrity and life choices. I remain undecided on this issue as it’s hard to unpick the political from the opinion, from the theology.

    1. Emily

      I fervently agree with the points you raise, HH! Moreover, we do not live in a theocratic state, and the majority of Americans who choose to marry today likely have no conception of the Judeo-Christian meanings attached to their decision … So why do we Christians feel it is our God-ordained mission to prevent homosexual couples from acquiring the legal and societal benefits of marriage, especially when a significant percentage of the American population (a recent Washington Post/ABC poll indicated 58%) are in favor of legalization? We do still live in a republican democracy, yes? I will still have every right to choose not to marry another woman, right? I do not understand how legalizing gay marriage would impinge upon my rights as an American citizen or upon my relationship with a Holy God who commands me to love my gay/straight neighbor. Everything I have read on the subject from Christian thinkers inevitably fails to connect God’s intent for his children with my mandate to vote against gay marriage. That is a subject I would like to see explored more thoroughly.

      1. Joseph

        @Emily; the fact that you are in a position to “marry” anyone provides us all with a perfect living illustration of the loss of truth in the church and the breakdown of society. You “feel” your way to a position of authority and deny God. If homosexuals “marry” our society will get more perverted and weak.

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