Homosexuality and the Church: The Symptom of a Larger Problem?

For those who haven’t noticed, traffic here at the two cities has taken a considerable focus on sincerely contributing to the discussion of homosexuality. Always a hot topic, and pinging especially large on our reader’s radar in light of President Obama’s Statement on the matter and the recent publication of the Biola Underground, we at T2C feel it especially relevant to contribute towards the conversation.

Following Andrew’s  helpful positioning statement, and Bryan’s penetrating evaluation of the biblical paradigm for marriage, I think it’s helpful to remember another reality of our world- our imperfect world, our sin-shaped world- of which we must all seek to guard our eyes and hearts.

Scripture and other historical documents testify that homosexuality as a practice, and same-sex attraction, appears to have existed from the earliest times. Yet, I feel that the boiling topic of homosexuality and its compatibility with Christianity as it exists on the stove top of American culture today can be diluted to a core issue that is really a weakness in American (and all Western) culture at large. That core issue is that the primary virtue of American culture is individual happiness and the gratification of every person’s individual desires. Indeed, those raised in the post-modern and relativistic milieu of the last few decades are raised with an understanding that my unalienable right to “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness” means that the only ethic that exists is the fulfillment and satisfaction of my desires… so long as nobody else gets hurt (although, I believe that we are all woefully shortsighted when it comes to evaluating the damage our desire-driven obsessions take us).

Certainly, the enthronement of individual desires for personal satisfaction above all else is a core virus at play in the epidemic collapse of hetro-sexual marriage in the Western Church. In fact, just in the last year, I heard that the marriage another family whom I have known for years just ended in divorce. Why? Because one member felt like they weren’t getting the love they needed or deserved (which probably certainly true), and that since “what God would want most is for me to be happy,” they filed the divorce papers, and has within two months married another.

“What God wants most is for me to be happy…” THIS has become the ultimate authority for millions in the Church today, whether heterosexual or homosexual in the orientation of their sexual desires. The basis for their life and ethics is not “thus says the LORD,” but “thus yearns my desires.”

This mentality has been inbreed in generations over the last 50 years, as discipline, didactic instruction, and saying “no” to a child have all seemed to have become cultural taboos. The self-esteem movement that I know characterized my own public school education has only contributed to this new cultural virtue, which I believe is as strong inside the church as it is outside.

Satiating what I personally crave, feel, or long for is the new authority for many in the church, and has replaced the Scriptures as the authority for determining how one should live.[1]

“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free” (Gal 5:1). But, what is the biblical perspective of freedom? Perhaps one of the most difficult blindspots of Western culture is the difficulty in entertaining the idea that freedom in the theological frame work of Paul and Jesus doesn’t mean “freedom to do what I want.” Jesus commands in the Sermon on the Mount, which actually escalates the standards for morality in the life of a disciple (Matt 5:22,28, 39, 44-45) make it pretty clear that the cross does not make lax the Scripture before it, nor nullify it (Matt 5:17). There is little appetite in an entertainment driven culture to consider that Paul reads Jesus and sees freedom as release from the bondage we have to the domain of sin (Rom 8:21), and that the application is not to justify the flesh’s desires… but instead to serve others in love (Gal 5:13). Indeed, the response of one’s heart to this freedom out to be a self-identification and assignment as a slave of righteousness (Rom 6:18), and a servant to one another (1 Cor 9:19).

Thus, the heart tension most at play in the inner turmoil of those trying to reconcile acting upon same-sex attraction and identification with Christ is the same tension every believer lives in day by day: when temptation arises, to what authority do we submit our will? We all need to remember how loving and gracious our God is, who designed us to only be satisfied when we walk in and worship our Lord? Piper truly says it well, “God is most glorified in us, when we are most satisfied in Him.”

Thoughts?



[1] This sad trap is nothing new. In fact, this was the Serpent’s very ploy in the garden scene, where argument of the great deception was to convince mankind that God does not in fact know what is best for us, and that instead of acting in obedience to Him and His word, the true good, and experience of true happiness, is achieved when we act on desires that seek to serve ourselves, and on this side of the fall, whatever my flesh might crave. And the deeper the crave, the more intertwined it becomes in the entanglement of love, sexual drive, and the human appetite for relational filling (most intimate fibers of the human soul), the truer we feel these broken desires to be.

 

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7 responses to “Homosexuality and the Church: The Symptom of a Larger Problem?”

  1. Andy

    I think you hit it on the head. I’ve encountered the “God wants me to be happy” mentality in the Church more times than I care to count. If I could be so bold as to generalize, I’d say that immature (young in their faith) Christians tend to be of the opinion that something is wrong in their life if they don’t feel emotionally satisfied/fulfilled in their current situation. As their faith matures, this mentality will often evolve into one that suggests that “God knows best,” and that even though I may not currently be happy, He has something better planned for me that will make me happier than I could possibly hope for. While this sort of mentality does acknlowledge God’s sovereignty (at least on the surface), I nonetheless believe it poses a problem for Christians. And I have mixed feelings about how to confront it.

    On one hand, I feel that it’s part of an incredibly self-indulgent worldview, and that it fosters a self-serving approach to life. After all, who am I to presume that God’s ultimate goal is to cater to my heart’s capricious desires? But on the other hand, I don’t want to crush this person’s hopes and dreams by taking away the only source of encouragement he may have that’s enabling him to persevere in a moment of tribulation. After all, who am I to presume that God is NOT working out a master plan that will bless this brother beyond his wildest dreams?

    For myself, I firmly believe that not only does God not owe us any blesings, he also doesn’t owe us any explanations. Therefore, if we find constantly find ourselves mired in crappy life situations, we have no right to question why it’s happening to us. And as an extension of that, we also have no right to assume that our lives will be enhanced as a result. As followers of Christ, who have been promised trials and persecution, we have no recourse but to persevere and live faithfully. We may or may not receive a repreive and a reward, but that’s not for us to preoccupy ourselves with. “Ours not to question why, Ours but to do and die.” Or so they say.

    This sort of attitude usually proves unpopular at my small group Bible studies. 🙂

    1. Tanner Gish

      Andy,

      Your comment resonates with my same sentiments about the deeper, and more universally prevalent, struggle of the church as it stands(or perhaps better, merges) with the convictions of our culture.
      You’re right- it’s not always the most popular in small group Bible studies. And I’m actually surprised to post this (I typically don’t post things that might prove controversial depending on who reads, but my last few weeks have been a little more in that direction), and to only have one response by now.
      That being said- thank you for sharing your thoughts.

  2. There is some wonderfully nuanced material here. I think it rightly summarizes a deprecatory stance toward consumerism and its effects on our all-too-juvenile post-Christian culture, and it points to more than materialism as well. This recent flourish of Christianity’s position on homosexual behavior is challenging us to call a spade a spade: Homosexual behavior is sin — like racial violence, for instance, is sin — or sexist jokes, to take it further, are sin — or… well, you get the picture. The Church needs to cease its dancing around political correctness, here and elsewhere, and lovingly speak truth to a dreadfully anorexic society.. Let’s not let, to quote President Obama’s recent remarks, our view of the truth “evolve” on this score. Citizens, this is more than the facade of a Civil Rights issue, and Gish’s post here is pointing to that.

    1. Brad

      I love this post! I totally agree with the diagnosis of the problem in and outside the church. It is sad to think that clear scriptural guidelines regarding sex are set aside because they don’t agree with our desires. I used to think that we needed to fight the “nature vs. nurture” battle regarding the origin of same-sex attraction. But then theologian Lada Gaga reminded me that we are all “born this way.” As Luis and Tanner pointed out, we all struggle with the way we were born (i.e. depraved).

      The sad thing now is rather than brokenness over our sin, we attempt to ignore or reinterpret scripture. Where will this, “What God wants most is for me to be happy” hermeneutic lead us? Today it’s homosexuality, tomorrow ??? It seems that if, “Thus yearns my desires” becomes our replacement for “Thus saith the Lord”, Dostoevsky’s “All things are permitted” becomes our inevitable destination.

      1. Luis Zaldana

        Thanks for that response, Brad. I hadn’t considered this as yet another example of all things being permissible, a la Karamazov. I suppose my assumption has been that when Scripture says something, it cannot mean the opposite of what it says! But, all rhetoric aside, has the Church not been teaching truth? How forcefully have we equivocated on the nature of sin that this issue comes to the forefront so often?

        1. Tanner Gish

          Luis and Brad,

          Thanks for reading and sharing your opinion. I’m sorry that my reply comes so late- the rush of finals and some other projects have thrown off my regular “touching-base” times to interact with comments.

          Brad, I believed you summarized it well in phrasing it as ‘we all have a “nature” problem- we are all born in depravity’ (to paraphrase). Although the particular application of exploring this distorted desire in this article was in the context of same-sex attraction/ marriage (homo or hetro sexual), I am saddened to see how much “self-desire” is THE grid for determining ethics, much less my day in and out decisions. My friend was just telling me about a “hypothetical” he asked one of his (non-christian) co-workers: say you are on a plane, and the plane is crashing, and everyone else is dead except for you and a murder(the murder was at his work). There is one parachute left: what do you do?” The co-workers answer: “Duh! Take the darn parachute!” I’ll be honest… most of us would probably answer that way, and because of the lack of seriousness with which one might answer such a question, perhaps we shouldn’t place too much of an emphasis on it, but it goes to show- if Christ isn’t the one ruling our hearts, and the source of our desires… we are.

          One thing I would like to write more on (perhaps a later post) is on the complexity of same -sex attraction- nature versus nurture, people being born with both genitals, or other issues of a similar nature… what do you do with these? For me, trying to identify one’s true gender, or the sources behind why this is not easy to determine, can be complex. And my heart does ache for every person who sits in this sort of pain, loneliness, and heartache, trying to figure out ‘who they are.’ But when it comes to our desires, and our decision to act on them: if the Scripture has a grid on what is and isn’t an appropriate application of these desires, it is our desires that we must work to change- not the content of God’s Word.

          And of course, I am guilty following my own distorted desires as well, as I stumble and fall too. What encouragement there is though in knowing that our God forgives, and gives us the power to overcome and to live lives of glorifying and satisfying obedience. If only I operated out of this strength, versus my own (feeble strength), more often!

          Thanks for reading, gentlemen.

  3. David Jeffries

    As a man who has struggled with this sin and has been truly born again and currently struggles with the attraction side of it. I believe that there is a lacking not only in the church but also in the homes of America people have deviated from Gods role of the Man in a household and also the church. We seem to forget that Gods way is the best and only way and we exult our reasonings and passions above his because we can’t seem to tolerate in our own fleshly mind set how God can just draw the line and leave us hanging? But does he really leave us hanging or does he expect us to drop to our knees and cry out to him and embrace him as the father we always needed. As a man with a girlfriend who is choosing the right path a midst the struggles of same sex attraction. I have realized there is no need to beat my self up over it. Because whether you see it or not Got is in control. All he expects of us is to drop to our knees and commune with him pouring every gruesome thought will or desire out to him and ask him to heal us. God is not surprised when we confess he knows us better then we do ourselves. God will allow you to deal with it. And he honors and blesses those who boldly and humbly come to his throne of Grace. Ive come to accept that I may always struggle with same sex attraction whether I act on it or not is pure choice. The difference between temptation and sin is just that. And for all those men or women who are just homosexual and don’t have attraction to both. Ive been there too and can surly say that it WILL get better if you come to God and seek his advice and counsel and there is certainty that as God created us every man will be attracted to a woman in some adequate way and vis/ versa for women. So in terms of a future marriage. Don’t sweat it. Just live as purely and Holy Spirit driven as possible and never cease prayer and supplication through reading Gods word. God will answer his prayers in his timing and he does forgive any mistake, in True repentance.

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