marriage

  • PlanA

    A is for Awesome

    About a month ago, my husband and I were enjoying lunch at a Japanese restaurant when the thought occurred to us, “What if we switched roles?” We had really been dancing around the issue for some time. I have been staying at home with our boy since shortly after...
  • Singleness

    Every Tuesday I lead a bible study for undergrad ladies attending UC Berkeley through Cru ministries. Last Tuesday, one of the girls said to me (in so many words), “Carrie, thank you for being an example of living a content single life.” She expanded her thought by mentioning that...
  • The Black Hole of Marriage

    My wife and I will be celebrating our 2 year anniversary in October. The last two years have found us discussing, exploring, and analyzing marriage, both as a concept and our own experience. We have attended 2 marriage conferences, participated in a couple’s dinner at our church, read numerous...
  • A Prayer For a Family

    This weekend, my youngest brother will become the wedded spouse to fellow-minded companion in humor, his life coach and motivator, his faithful supporter and encourager, and his dear friend, Brittany. This is the second wedding in seven months in the Gish household (perhaps a sign that they’re a hot...
  • Marriage and Sex: Why? And Why “Why” Matters

    “Physics is like sex: sure, it may give some practical results, but that’s not why we do it.” -Richard P. Feynman For many in our society, Dr. Feynman’s above quote pretty much summarizes the telos (the goal, or end-all) of sexual activity of any type—its about pleasure, desire, and...
  • “Les Miserey” of the Unrequited

    If you haven’t seen the new Les Miserables motion picture, finish reading this post first, then grab your tickets on fandango. The music, and the story, is stunningly beautiful. It is emotionally vigorous. It is theologically rich. And it is soul-transforming. Ok, maybe these promises are a little high,...
  • Pro-Marriage…but Above All, Pro-Jesus (and perhaps anti-self)

    “I can’t help but feel a little offended by Paul.” This phrase might be one you would expect to hear from one who has for the first time come across some of Paul’s passages for the first time. Perhaps from one reading his emotional introduction to Galatians. Or perhaps...
  • 07-11

    Homosexuality: Does Jesus Even Care?

    Homosexuality remains a hot topic both in and outside the church. But discussing it at length comes with two inherent dangers: either we see homosexuality as worse than all other sins, or we act as though it’s no sin at all. Last week, I responded to the first danger...
  • Gay Marriage

    Gay Marriage as Metaphor?

    Last week, President Barack Obama affirmed his personal support for gay marriage, pushing the issue into the political spotlight once again. Of course, it’s much more than politics. It’s a spiritual issue, too. When faced with the question of gay marriage, Christians will often rattle off buzz verses that...
  • Trusting My Caregiver: Reflections on a Miscarriage, and Learning How to Be a Child (Guest Post)

    It’s Friday, 11:20 a.m. and I am so frustrated with my little charge, Giuliana. I just picked her up from school and we are driving back to the house when she asks me what we’re going to do when we get home. I tell her that she can play...
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    Should I Have a Baby

    One of the clients that I work with on a regular basis is autistic. This is a curse and a blessing. The curse is that for him, life is difficult. He can’t relate to other people in a typical fashion and this fact makes it hard to develop a...
  • “Love or Lust?” Identifying the Role of Physical Attraction in Healthy Relationships

    So, sexual attraction is a powerful force. If you are like me, you grew up in the church being told this, and that as a result, sexual lust was to be avoided like the plague and feared as dangerous as an inescapable labyrinth. And there are many who can...
  • Bringing Sexy Back

    Valentine’s Day yet again brought us some spark of magic during one of the year’s dreariest months. Yet, the past few months within Evangelicalism has produced a firework of sparks surrounding the biggest and more confrontational discussion and issue facing the church in the 21st century: SEX. So, what...
  • Theological Paradigms for how to do “Family”

    The older I’ve become, the more my interests have changed. Actually, let’s use a better word than changed. I’ll be a little audacious and say “matured.” Gone are the days where my thoughts and day-dreams were occupied pondering how to beat the boss of the Goron Mountain Dungeon in...
  • Around the Town: Weekly Round-up #1 (2012)

    CNN interacts with Mark Driscoll’s new book, Real Marriage: The Truth About Sex, Friendship, and Life Together, co-written with his wife. Read CNN’s article here. In light of the recent Iowa Caucuses to determine the future GOP candidate and the upcoming primaries in New Hampshire, South Carolina, Florida, and...