Letter to Myself at 15

Dear Bryan,

You’re probably at the piano, writing songs about things you know nothing about, like love and loss. Or doing vocal warm-ups so you can audition for that blasted show choir. (Don’t bother. You won’t make it until your senior year, and when you do, you’ll become a bigger nerd than you already are.) I do hope you’ll find time for this letter. I’m writing from the future, of course, to warn you about five big issues you’ll encounter in your Christian walk over the next thirteen years.

CALVINISM

1999 is the year you go gung-ho for Calvinism. Truth be told, you won’t even read Calvin’s Institutes until grad school. (I know you don’t plan to go to college, but I’m sorry to say your dream of becoming a famous singer straight out of high school does not come true.)

Let me tell you a secret. Brand-new Calvinists, although on the right track theologically, are awfully annoying. In their newfound passion for all things reformed, they often say silly things. You will too. But don’t let TULIP become more important to you than people and their pursuit of God. And certainly not more important than the gospel.

You’ll get caught up in the mechanics of Calvinism. God elects, calls, regenerates, justifies, sanctifies, glorifies. In your mind, he does everything but love. It all gets very mathematical. Salvation becomes an equation. I know how much you enjoy debating Arminians in those AOL chat rooms, but don’t discount everything they say. No offense, but you could learn a lesson from them on love. Don’t forget about love. (Also, AOL pretty much doesn’t exist anymore. Tell your parents to invest in Google.)

LOVE & OTHER EMOTIONS

Speaking of love, I know it’s something you’re wary of. Your pastor, overreacting to the threat of emotionalism, has told you love is an action. Love is a verb. Catchy sayings, but they’re only half true.

First and foremost, love is an emotion, an affection, a noun. Something we feel because God himself feels it, and we’re made in his image. Once felt, love inspires action—it becomes a verb. Obedience flows from love, not the other way around (John 14:15). I regret to inform you that your skewed view of love will cause you to spiral into legalism. (You’ll learn that word later.)

In 2006, Matthew Elliott will write a book called Faithful Feelings. Read it. It’ll help you regain a biblical understanding of emotions. Oh, and a pastor in Minnesota named John Piper will totally blow up. Get a head start on Desiring God.

DISPENSATIONALISM & COVENANTALISM

You’ve got a lot to unravel in the realm of theology. You don’t know this yet, but you’re a dispensationalist. If it sounds scary, it is. Eek! You know your friend Sammy Emadi? He’s going to challenge you and your church when he covers covenant theology in Sunday school. But remember these two words: big picture. They’ll help you through your transition.

That also means that right now you’re a premillennialist. Don’t worry, plenty of Christians are. But be sure to say yes when Matthew Emadi suggests you visit him at Biola. He’s going to take you to a small bookstore where you’ll pick up a book by Kim Riddlebarger that’ll rock your world.

ASSURANCE

Believe me, I know what you’re struggling with. The struggle. We need not go into details. I understand you sometimes question your salvation as a result. I want to be honest with you and let you know that, at 28, that struggle remains. But when you get to be my age you’ll have a better understanding—and experience—of grace. Guaranteed.

Over the years, removing that thorn will become your ultimate goal, and Jesus will become a means to that end. Learn this lesson now: Jesus is always the end and never the means. Let your highest goal be to know, love and become more like Christ. The thorn won’t go away—at least it hasn’t yet. But you’ll learn, like Paul, to boast in your weakness as a way to magnify Christ’s power (2 Corinthians 12:9).

And yes, someday you’ll be able to sing “Blessed Assurance” with gusto. But not before you abandon your obsession with doing better, meeting your personal standard of holiness, checking every box. Not before you trust completely in the finished work of Christ, and really grasp the great exchange that occurred at the cross—our sin for his righteousness. When you walk by faith, you will most certainly rest assured.

THE GOSPEL

Which brings me to my final point. God has lots of surprises in store for you. But please remember one thing: the gospel. It’s easy to get lost in the details of doctrine, but don’t lose sight of the gospel—the plain simple beautiful miraculous gospel.

Whether you’re debating Arminians, discovering “new” truths, or struggling with assurance, promise me you’ll make your cause Christ, and your goal his gospel. It’s the only way that you get joy and God gets glory. Trust me on this.

In his grace,

Your future self

P.S. You’ve got so much joy ahead of you. You haven’t even heard of LOST yet! Just wait, young man. Just wait.

 

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16 responses to “Letter to Myself at 15”

  1. Sam Emadi

    Wow! That was awesome!

  2. T. Emadi

    This is my story! Beautifully written, Bryan. Rejoicing that your “future” was in your twenties not your forties.

  3. Matthew Emadi

    The Emadi’s are dominating the comments page today. Masterful! Thanks for writing that Bryan. I think we can all share in your story. I am excited to see what the next 13 years will bring!

  4. Saeed Emadi

    This is my story as well, and the story still continues…

  5. Becky

    As someone who met you when you were 15 in those pesky AOL chat rooms and the. In the halls of NHS- I have to say I loved reading this and knowing that the God who started your story is no where close to finishing it! Great read, thanks for sharing 🙂

  6. Donna

    You have always been wise beyond your years. God has blessed you in so many ways. Love you, my son. Mummie

  7. Bryan, I love this. This is the story of so many of us. I marvel at the grace of God in growing us in Him and not in mere knowlege and facts about Him. He is the reality, all else is mere apperances. Live in that reality! To God Be The Glory!

  8. Collin

    Great exercise and great insight! An absolutely enjoyable read.

  9. Darren Colwell

    Good post! Ah the things we wish we could tell ourselves 13 years ago. It’s a joy reading your writing and even more to be your brother and friend. “When we are faithless, he remains faithful for he cannot deny himself.”

  10. Frank

    Well done Bryan. Praise God that you learned these truths early. The real challenge comes in living them out in our lifes. Only by the grace of God can we do that. Thankfully that grace is abundent because we certainly need an abundence of it.

  11. natasha

    This was great Bryan. You have taught me a great many things, though you probably do not realize it. You need to keep writing because you are so worth reading!

  12. Steve

    Another great post my friend, and a perfect example of why 1 Corinthians 13 should be read, re-read, and re-re-re-re-re-re-re-re-re-re-re-re-re-re-re-re-re-re-read by Christians on a regular basis.

    And you best believe I’m diggin’ the Google reference!

  13. Brilliant! I loved this, esp the PS!

  14. Yvonne

    Sorry it took me a while to get around to read this. So glad I did. Very well written. Thoroughly enjoyed.

  15. Nancy

    This is a masterpiece! Your letter challenges me to look at where God has taken me the last twenty years. Thank you.

  16. […] Postscript: I have omitted a few paragraphs of my original 2007 post “How I Became An Amillennialist” along the way. If you’re interested in reading the full blog post, here it is. For those of you familiar with The Two Cities it is obvious that the present project was inspired by Bryan’s brilliant post: “Letter to Myself at 15.” […]

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